I recently posted this link on my facebook page: Jo Ann Santangelo with the following blurb:
“Check this out. Another way to try and victimize people making horrible life choices. How about be responsible and you won’t get AIDS. Imagine that. Maybe I should do a series of portraits about people who’ve killed people while drunk driving from the perspective of how terrible it is they are alcoholics.“
I was informed that I needed to stop looking at things in such a black & white way. I was told to look for the ‘gray’ area.
Please visit this link: METH – when you’re done come back and we’ll talk about some gray area regarding this warm, fuzzy topic.
The gray area might be they were depressed. Maybe they were bored. Maybe someone they trusted gave them this highly addictive drug. Maybe they just meant to do it once. Maybe no one told them that illicit drugs were dangerous. Maybe they were sure they could stop at anytime. Maybe all their friends were doing it and they didn’t want to be left out. Maybe they decided their future didn’t matter. Maybe they don’t have any discipline or self-control.
Those all might be ‘gray’ reasons, all but the last two.
I was told that holding these people accountable for their actions would destroy their minds and they wouldn’t be able to cope with the harsh reality. I was told by an aspiring social worker friend(SWF), “Wow dude that’s pretty cold. Things happen You sometimes make a bad decision but that doesn’t mean that you should be punished to have a disease that kills you”
Actually it does. If you decide to clean a pistol without properly clearing it and you blow your face off. You 100% deserve to not have a face, because for some reason you thought you weren’t going to be held accountable for not clearing that pistol.
This isn’t complicated.
My response to her was: “I don’t have unprotected sex with strange women or work as a prostitute…b/c I don’t want to get diseases that might kill me. This is a glowing example of people searching for a way to have society accept them as victims instead of people who are living with the results of horrible decisions…I just don’t like positive press, soliciting sympathy for people who had just as much opportunity to not get AIDS…they just didn’t take it.”
Back to the Meth, issue. There isn’t a gray area for illicit drug use. People who subject themselves to that lifestyle or habit are in that situation because they make bad choices. That is only their fault. Purely their fault. I’m not saying we can’t help these people, but they shouldn’t be portrayed as victims. They made life choices that didn’t work out.
The conversation continued:
SWF: “You seem to be living in the black and white and not realizing the gray. If it makes you feel better to say I have not… that’s fine but I’m just wishing that there could be more of a gray area. I’m sure that some of these people didn’t sleep with prostitutes like you are saying or consider people they had sex with and trusted were strange people. They trusted them and decided to have unprotected sex because they did so. It just ends up that they couldn’t end up doing that or that the other person didn’t know either.”
Me: “Did you read the entire site? Picking up people from BARS….one guy it was his first sexual encounter…Stop searching for gray. Searching for gray prevents you from ever having to commit to anything of your own conviction, because you’ll find a way to stand for everything.”
This is the point I’ve been working towards – …Searching for gray prevents you from ever having to commit to anything of your own conviction, because you’ll find a way to stand for everything.
There is an exception to every rule. In this case the poor woman who was raped is the exception.
But you can’t tell me that 13/14 of those people are exceptions and victims of a horrible disease. A victim is in a set of circumstances that are unavoidable and not of their own making.
This is indicative of a society content to allow people a ‘free-pass’ for their transgressions. Do people realize that if they held themselves accountable; nature wouldn’t have to?
Have goals. Surround yourself with healthy, good people. Avoid chasing only good feelings.
Discipline, people. Have some.
I know if you were able to sit down with any of those AIDS folks or any reformed drug addict,
they’d tell you that if they could do it again they never would. One guy got AIDS during his first sexual encounter. His FIRST one. Way to go, big guy.
Another thing people need to do is educate themselves. I mean you’d think that not doing drugs or having unprotected sex would be 2nd nature with all of the school programs and examples all over the TV/Web etc.
Please take these two things from this post: Have discipline. Get educated.
Both of those can be applied to every situation.
Also, don’t search for the ‘gray’ areas for things. There is a difference between ‘gray’ and the ability to see a situation from every perspective. Look at things from every perspective and sift through the ‘gray’ because it blinds people from addressing the real issues. The real issue is that people want to do whatever they want without being held accountable.
There will always be a reckoning.