Rally the Gentlemen 2012!
I wanted to address something from previous posts, I believe is a good idea to think about.
I mentioned before about the status quo of days gone by was that men should be the rock; an unwavering Oak. To accomplish this aim, they were to remain stoic and hard, standing fast and be leaned on for support.
This picture, unfortunately, is still the way ahead for enough men out there and gives them reason to think about why they are alone.
I’m constantly in the presence of men who addle women with clever quips and one-liners, meant to make them appear wittier and smarter. What men don’t realize is the “widdle-woman-needing-a-big-strong-guy” facade is just that: a facade. Most women nowadays are as self-sufficient as they have ever been and they are no longer in need of someone to go out and club their dinner to death.
I believe it’s time for men to be more transparent. Men and women were both created with emotions. The silly notion that men are not allowed to display them is dated and ridiculous.
Men are typically wired to be more rational than women, able to more quickly see the black and white of a situation. Now, there are women out there that do it better than some men they know and men who are not good at it at all. All I’m saying is that men – TYPICALLY-are better at it. Their ability fails them when they don’t even consider the potential, emotional responses that may spring forth from a particular situation.
In every scenario both sides of the dispute should be visible to both parties, regardless of how upset or angry one of the parties might become if all the facts are presented.
At the end of the day, men should be strong and supportive, and typically men can suppress their emotions better than women. This is a strength that allows men to detach themselves from a situation so they can devote all of their emotional support to their wife, mother, sister, girlfriend etc, when the situation dictates. This is a STRENGTH – not the norm.
Men, if you’re sad – be sad. If you are having a hard time – allow yourself to emote. Supressing emotions all of the time will eventually lead to an emotionally bankrupt life. You’ll eventually forget how to emote.
Ladies, encourage your men to experience their full range of emotion and support them like they undoubtably support you when you need it. Just like men create a safe environment for you to emote, likewise, create a similar environment for them. Emotions are not weekness. Allowing emotions to flow, when appropriate does wonders to clear the mind and allow for clarity of thought.
I wanted to get this out to you, all. Please let me know what your experiences have been, good and bad.
Be Gentlemen, Gentlemen.